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Thank you for connecting to our sisterhood of survivors.
We are survivors of domestic, working out of a home office to try and help our sisters have an easier time of it than we did.
If you are a Maine woman needing support with intimate partner abuse, please fill out this form.
We provide financial assistance, access to free dental care and a weekly online support group.
If you do not hear from us in three days please circle back.
Please know that the information you provide is confidential and will only be seen by key people in Finding Our Voices moving forward our sister-support program.
We do not help you find housing or jobs. We are not crisis responders. If you need immediate help please call 911 and/or the 24/7 confidential Maine domestic abuse helpline 1-866-834-4357.
Unlike the traditional domestic abuse agencies we do not receive state or federal funding and are 100% donor funded.
There are traditional domestic abuse resource agencies in every county in Maine that have trained advocates and also provide resources. We recommend you also contact them for help. Their confidential 24/7 helpline is a good way to help process what you are going through.
1-866-834-4357
Hope & Justice Project – Aroostook County
Next Step Domestic Violence Project – Washington & Hancock Counties
Partners for Peace – Penobscot & Piscataquis Counties
New Hope – Waldo, Knox, Lincoln & Sagadahoc Counties
Family Violence Project – Kennebec & Somerset Counties
Immigrant Resource Center of Maine – Refugee & Immigrant Communities
Safe Voices – Oxford, Franklin & Androscoggin Counties
Through These Doors – Cumberland County
Caring Unlimited – York County
You Are Not Alone!
Listening to our stories you are sure to see more clearly the pattern of domestic abuse, that you are not alone, and how another life IS possible for you and your children.
We meet online about fives times a year with Internationally-acclaimed authors to discuss the domestic abuse in their books and lives.
Hundreds of Maine women aged 18 to 85 are publicly sharing their experiences of domestic abuse with Finding Our Voices on panel discussions and on our posters and bookmarks that are in 100 towns.
Courtney and Christine are two of dozens of survivors on panels that have so far been in more than 50 Maine towns.
Power & Control Wheels
The Power and Control Wheel was created in the 1980s, but the tactics abusers use to get and keep control of the person they claim to love are the same.
Click here to download, print and customize your own Power and Control wheel to help understand the abuse that YOU are going through or experienced. We are happy to mail you a printed copy of this wheel with an FOV-branded highlighter!
Here are some Power and Control Wheels customized by Finding Our Voices survivors. Click to enlarge.
OTHER RESOURCES
Narcissistic Abuse
Narcissistic abuse as relates to parenting and the family court system: One Mom’s Battle (OMB)
Narcissistic relationships: Dr. Ramani
Rebecca Zung "Negotiating with a narcissist" – https://www.rebeccazung.com
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Read here about why an abusive partner is NOT a good father!
https://dremmakatz.substack.com/p/10-reasons-why-a-coercively-controlling
Family Court/Court ReformWeSpoke: Mobilizing awareness and speaking up on the systemic failures in Family & Matrimonial Courts across America.
Custody Peace and One Mom's Battle have joined forces to build awareness and advocacy for policy change that will positively impact the current Family Court System worldwide
National Family Court Reform non-profit: The Court Said USA.
How family-court practices fail children: Barry Goldstein.
Connecticut Protective Moms is a grass roots nonprofit of Connecticut moms who are dedicated to improving the Connecticut Family Court process to validate all forms of Domestic Violence (DV) including physical, coercive control, emotional, verbal, financial and legal abuse.
Other Maine Resources
Needing/navigating a divorce with an abuser? Here is a wonderful Maine nonprofit, that provides low-cost virtual and in-person divorce workshops. https://togetherinvested.com
Is Religion a factor in your abuse? Caroline McKuen’s nonprofit Presbyterian Advocacy Coalition is working to end domestic violence and clergy abuse in church communities, and is here for you. https://www.presbyterianadvocacycoalition.org
Pro bono legal services for those 60 and older. HelpLine: 1-800-750-5353
Peer Support through Maine Behavioral Health. Warm Line at 1-866-771-9276. Rockland Peer Support Center: (207) 701-4417, in Biddeford at (207) 358-4414 and Sanford (207) 490-5253.
CA$H Maine is a statewide collaboration of ten coalitions, comprised of 50 partners, working together to achieve long-term financial stability.
New Ventures Maine creates an empowering environment for Maine people to define and achieve their career, financial, and small business goals.
Nourish - Nurture - Nest – https://www.nourishnurturenest.comJulie is an Intuitive Lifestyle and Wellness Coach in Maine, providing women with tools and resources to expand their sense of self trust, personal satisfaction and fulfillment.
National Resources
Narcissistic abuse educator and narcissistic relationship recovery coach Claire Auden’s YouTube Channel.
We have heard good things about the Facebook Narcissist Abuse Support Group.
DomesticShelter.orgis a great clearing house for resources as well as articles including these about coercive control and narcissistic abuse:
https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/what-is-coercive-control
https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/a-narcissistic-abuser-will-never-change211.org connects you to expert, confidential help.
Dawn Wilcox tirelessly reveals the true state of femicide in the US, https://womencountusa.org
Women’s Independence Scholarship Program (WISP) enhances efforts to stop the cycle of intimate partner abuse by financial empowerment through access to education. Apply for scholarship assistance here.
General Legal Help
Plain language, easy-to-understand information for victims of abuse: Women’s Law.
The Women’s Legal Defense and Education Fund: Legal Momentum.
A guide to restraining orders here.
Social Media
If you read only one blog, make it Lundy Bancroft, author of the classic Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men.
Facebook Group for Domestic Abuse and Trauma recovery:Bonshea Making Light of the Dark.
Durga Strong promoting physical, spiritual and mental health Wellness blog.
Other DV organizations We Like
The Duluth Model: An innovator of ways to hold batterers accountable and keep victims safe.
WomenSV: An excellent overall victim-resource based in Silicone Valley with an emphasis on wealthy and powerful abusers.
Organizations Powered by Survivors
SOAR: A grassroots, survivor-based, DV organization in Rhode Island.
A Colorado nonprofit also led by survivors, with a helpline, online support group and survivor retreat: Break The Silence Against Domestic Violence (BTSADV).
Education by a Survivor: Don’t Look Back.