GET HELP
If you or someone you know is currently in immediate danger, call 911.
The Maine 24/7 confidential helpline is 1-866-834-4357.
We understand IT and we believe YOU.
Finding Our Voices is a loving, non-judgmental community of Maine women survivors, who are taking back our power and shining a light for our sisters still in the dark. We gather for online support groups, healing retreats, panel discussions, getting our posters up through towns, and public rallies educating the public about what WE want them to know about domestic abuse.
We are NOT housing navigators or legal advocates. If you need either of these services, please contact your local domestic violence agency to see how they can help.
Maine’s Domestic Abuse Agencies
There are domestic abuse agencies in every county in Maine under the umbrella Maine Coalition To End Domestic Violence.
The 24/7 confidential Maine domestic abuse hotline is 1-866-834-4357.
Hope & Justice Project – Aroostook County
Next Step Domestic Violence Project – Washington & Hancock Counties
Partners for Peace – Penobscot & Piscataquis Counties
New Hope – Waldo, Knox, Lincoln & Sagadahoc Counties
Family Violence Project – Kennebec & Somerset Counties
Immigrant Resource Center of Maine – Refugee & Immigrant Communities
Safe Voices – Oxford, Franklin & Androscoggin Counties
Through These Doors – Cumberland County
Caring Unlimited – York County
Other Maine Resources
Needing/navigating a divorce with an abuser? Here is a wonderful Maine nonprofit, that provides low-cost virtual and in-person divorce workshops. https://togetherinvested.com
Is Religion a factor in your abuse? Caroline McKuen’s nonprofit Presbyterian Advocacy Coalition is working to end domestic violence and clergy abuse in church communities, and is here for you. https://www.presbyterianadvocacycoalition.org
Pro bono legal services for those 60 and older. HelpLine: 1-800-750-5353
Peer Support through Maine Behavioral Health. Warm Line at 1-866-771-9276. Rockland Peer Support Center: (207) 701-4417, in Biddeford at (207) 358-4414 and Sanford (207) 490-5253.
CA$H Maine is a statewide collaboration of ten coalitions, comprised of 50 partners, working together to achieve long-term financial stability.
New Ventures Maine creates an empowering environment for Maine people to define and achieve their career, financial, and small business goals.
Nourish - Nurture - Nest – https://www.nourishnurturenest.com
Julie is a good friend of mine who is an Intuitive Lifestyle and Wellness Coach in Maine, providing women with tools and resources to expand their sense of self trust, personal satisfaction and fulfillment.
National Resources
Narcissistic abuse educator and narcissistic relationship recovery coach Claire Auden’s YouTube Channel.
We have heard good things about the Facebook Narcissist Abuse Support Group.
DomesticShelter.org is a great clearing house for resources as well as articles including these about coercive control and narcissistic abuse:
https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/what-is-coercive-control
https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/a-narcissistic-abuser-will-never-changeFreeForm.org: FreeFrom reframes IPV as a structural economic issue that intersects with other systems of oppression, and is building an ecosystem of support to ensure that survivors have the resources to get safe, heal, and prevent future harm. Myth: Intimate partner violence is the result of bad luck, bad choices, or both, making survivors responsible for their own healing. Fact: 1 in 4 women and 1 in 2 trans folks experience IPV in the U.S., and the #1 obstacle to safety for survivors is financial security. This means that IPV is a systemic economic issue, making all of us responsible to support survivors’ healing.
The Independence Project: The Independence Project is a credit building program of The National Network to End Domestic Violence (NNEDV), which helps advocates and local domestic violence programs across the nation support survivors of domestic violence in improving their credit scores through micro-lending.
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence: Comprehensive list of resources.
211.org connects you to expert, confidential help.
Dawn Wilcox tirelessly reveals the true state of femicide in the US, https://womencountusa.org
Women’s Independence Scholarship Program (WISP) enhances efforts to stop the cycle of intimate partner abuse by financial empowerment through access to education. Apply for scholarship assistance here.
National Center for Crisis and Recovery Resources – Safe House has mobile apps: https://yoursaferplace.org/apps
Family Court/Court Reform
WeSpoke: Mobilizing awareness and speaking up on the systemic failures in Family & Matrimonial Courts across America.
Narcissistic abuse as relates to parenting and the family court system: One Mom’s Battle (OMB)
Custody Peace and One Mom's Battle have joined forces to build awareness and advocacy for policy change that will positively impact the current Family Court System worldwide
National Family Court Reform non-profit: The Court Said USA.
How family-court practices fail children: Barry Goldstein.
Connecticut Protective Moms is a grass roots nonprofit of Connecticut moms who are dedicated to improving the Connecticut Family Court process to validate all forms of Domestic Violence (DV) including physical, coercive control, emotional, verbal, financial and legal abuse.
General Legal Help
Plain language, easy-to-understand information for victims of abuse: Women’s Law.
The Women’s Legal Defense and Education Fund: Legal Momentum.
A guide to restraining orders here.
Narcissists
Narcissistic abuse as relates to parenting and the family court system: One Mom’s Battle (OMB)
Narcissistic relationships: Dr. Ramani
Rebecca Zung "Negotiating with a narcissist" – https://www.rebeccazung.com
Social Media
If you read only one blog, make it Lundy Bancroft, author of the classic Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men.
Facebook Group for Domestic Abuse and Trauma recovery: Bonshea Making Light of the Dark.
Durga Strong promoting physical, spiritual and mental health Wellness blog.
Other DV organizations We Like
The Duluth Model: An innovator of ways to hold batterers accountable and keep victims safe.
WomenSV: An excellent overall victim-resource based in Silicone Valley with an emphasis on wealthy and powerful abusers.
Organizations Powered by Survivors
SOAR: A grassroots, survivor-based, DV organization in Rhode Island.
A Colorado nonprofit also led by survivors, with a helpline, online support group and survivor retreat: Break The Silence Against Domestic Violence (BTSADV).
Education by a Survivor: Don’t Look Back.