RESOURCES
We understand IT and we believe YOU.
The 24/7 confidential hotline run by the Maine Coalition to End Domestic Violence is 1 866 834 4357
If you or someone you know is currently in immediate danger, call 911.
Patrisha’s Online Book Club
Once a month DV-survivors and non-survivors meet online to discuss a book that illuminates an aspect of domestic abuse. We have read memoirs, books on cults, and stories of charismatic abusive parents. The author often joins us! Click to join the club.
Reading Recommendations
Visit our Book Club page.
Let us know if you would like a copy of “Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men” by Lundy Bancroft. This is the best guide we have found to explain the Why and the How of getting trapped in abuse. Finding Our Voices has given out hundreds of copies of this book, inscribed by a survivor and including the bookmark featuring the photo and story of that survivor.
Patrisha’s Podcast
Patrisha’s Radio Show
More than 30 episodes of conversations with domestic abuse survivors on WERU.FM.
OUTSIDE RESOURCES
Maine’s Domestic Abuse Agencies
There are domestic abuse agencies in every county in Maine under the umbrella Maine Coalition To End Domestic Violence.
24/7 CONFIDENTIAL HOTLINES
Maine: 1 866 834 4357
National: 1 800 799 7233
Hope & Justice Project – Aroostook County
Next Step Domestic Violence Project – Washington & Hancock Counties
Partners for Peace – Penobscot & Piscataquis Counties
New Hope – Waldo, Knox, Lincoln & Sagadahoc Counties
Family Violence Project – Kennebec & Somerset Counties
Immigrant Resource Center of Maine – Refugee & Immigrant Communities
Safe Voices – Oxford, Franklin & Androscoggin Counties
Through These Doors – Cumberland County
Caring Unlimited – York County
Other Resources
Maine
Pro bono legal services for those 60 and older. HelpLine: 1-800-750-5353
Peer Support through Maine Behavioral Health. Warm Line at 1-866-771-9276. Rockland Peer Support Center: (207) 701-4417, in Biddeford at (207) 358-4414 and Sanford (207) 490-5253.
CA$H Maine is a statewide collaboration of ten coalitions, comprised of 50 partners, working together to achieve long-term financial stability.
New Ventures Maine creates an empowering environment for Maine people to define and achieve their career, financial, and small business goals.
Nourish - Nurture - Nest – https://www.nourishnurturenest.com
Julie is a good friend of mine who is an Intuitive Lifestyle and Wellness Coach in Maine, providing women with tools and resources to expand their sense of self trust, personal satisfaction and fulfillment.
National
DomesticShelter.org is a great clearing house for resources as well as articles including these about coercive control and narcissistic abuse:
https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/what-is-coercive-control
https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/a-narcissistic-abuser-will-never-changeFreeForm.org: FreeFrom reframes IPV as a structural economic issue that intersects with other systems of oppression, and is building an ecosystem of support to ensure that survivors have the resources to get safe, heal, and prevent future harm. Myth: Intimate partner violence is the result of bad luck, bad choices, or both, making survivors responsible for their own healing. Fact: 1 in 4 women and 1 in 2 trans folks experience IPV in the U.S., and the #1 obstacle to safety for survivors is financial security. This means that IPV is a systemic economic issue, making all of us responsible to support survivors’ healing.
The Independence Project: The Independence Project is a credit building program of The National Network to End Domestic Violence (NNEDV), which helps advocates and local domestic violence programs across the nation support survivors of domestic violence in improving their credit scores through micro-lending.
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence: Comprehensive list of resources.
Safe House has a phone app to get emergency help for people in crisis. The director Eliza Conley-Lepene and board director Kerry Roarke are survivors on Finding Our Voices banners!
211.org connects you to expert, confidential help.
Dawn Wilcox tirelessly reveals the true state of femicide in the US, https://womencountusa.org
Family Court/Court Reform
WeSpoke: Mobilizing awareness and speaking up on the systemic failures in Family & Matrimonial Courts across America.
Narcissistic abuse as relates to parenting and the family court system: One Mom’s Battle (OMB)
Custody Peace and One Mom's Battle have joined forces to build awareness and advocacy for policy change that will positively impact the current Family Court System worldwide
National Family Court Reform non-profit: The Court Said USA.
How family-court practices fail children: Barry Goldstein.
Connecticut Protective Moms is a grass roots nonprofit of Connecticut moms who are dedicated to improving the Connecticut Family Court process to validate all forms of Domestic Violence (DV) including physical, coercive control, emotional, verbal, financial and legal abuse.
General Legal Help
Easy-to-understand legal information: Women’s Law.
The Women’s Legal Defense and Education Fund: Legal Momentum.
A guide to restraining orders here.
Narcissists
Narcissistic abuse as relates to parenting and the family court system: One Mom’s Battle (OMB)
Narcissistic relationships: Dr. Ramani
Rebecca Zung "Negotiating with a narcissist" – https://www.rebeccazung.com
Divorcing a Narcissist
Social Media
If you read only one blog, make it Lundy Bancroft, author of the classic Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men.
Facebook Group for Domestic Abuse and Trauma recovery: Bonshea Making Light of the Dark.
Other DV organizations We Like
The Duluth Model: An innovator of ways to hold batterers accountable and keep victims safe.
WomenSV: An excellent overall victim-resource based in Silicone Valley with an emphasis on wealthy and powerful abusers.
Organizations Powered by Survivors
SOAR: A grassroots, survivor-based, DV organization in Rhode Island.
A Colorado nonprofit also led by survivors, with a helpline, online support group and survivor retreat: Break The Silence Against Domestic Violence (BTSADV).
Education by a Survivor: Don’t Look Back.